Tidbits from the Book – Part 2


Madeline was hiking a steep mountain when she hurt her knee. A makeshift ice pack around her knee allowed her to keep walking slowly. At that point, she was about four kilometers from the gondola, and she knew it would stop running in about four hours. She was unsure if she could make it back in time to catch the last one down the mountain before nightfall. However, she told herself that she could make it back in time, and this kept her energy high enough to keep going, even though she was moving slowly.

Then she came to a steep section. She started to climb it and thought, I’ll never get back in time. Every ounce of energy drained from her body. She didn’t have enough energy to climb the section and couldn’t continue. She realized her mistake and told herself she could make it back in time. Slowly she regained her energy and continued up the mountain. She did make it back to the gondola in time, just by changing her story. This was a story that may have saved her life.


Military Wives’ Choir

“Wherever You Are,” a song sung by the Military Wives’ Choir in the UK, powerfully reframes language. The composer used words the wives wrote in letters to their husbands, who were deployed in war zones. Think about how powerful this is for both the husbands and wives. Instead of focusing on their fear of losing their loved ones, the wives use language to create safety for their husbands. These women literally sing their husbands safely home.

Here are a few powerful examples of reframes within this song:

  • “Wherever you are, my love will keep you safe. My heart will build a bridge of light across both time and space.”
  • “Wherever I am, I will hold on through the night, I will pray each day, a safe return; I will look now to the light.”
  • “Light up the darkness, my Prince of Peace!” 

Click this link to watch and listen: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0hR6O7VxKaQ&feature=related


A better way to express your care for someone, or even yourself, is to choose to see them or yourself in successful situations. You could say “Drive safely” instead of “I’m so worried about you driving through this storm.” When you say “Drive safely,” you leave the other person with a vision in their mind of safely reaching their destination, and that’s exactly what’s most likely to happen.